Over the past 25 years of systematic research on fear and fearlessness, I have been interested what anyone has to say, write, or teach about what ought to be our relationship to fear and love. I've been curious what different disciplines say, and what different ages, races, and genders have to say. This reflective paper, long overdue, winds its way through a messay territory of femaleness, females, and all the variations.... I write as a man in body, as a wo-man in soul. I speak for myself....